(The Need to Keep Yourself) 

The topic of purity or sexual purity is extremely important for everyone. We all have our own journey in this area. Some of us, by the grace of God, have been able to walk in continual sexual purity while some of us wrestle with guilt and shame from our failures in this area of our lives. It is our desire that this teaching will help us all, whatever our backgrounds, discover that we can honour the Lord with our sexuality, walk in purity and avoid brokenness and heartache in this area of our lives.


The bible explains Purity as freedom from anything that contaminates. Purity is the quality of being faultless, uncompromised, or unadulterated (Exodus 25:31, Leviticus 24:2, Habakkuk 1:13, Psalm 12:6, Revelation 21:8). When people think about what sexual purity is, they come up with ideas of rules and regulations, things that you can and cannot do. What most people fail to realise is that sexual purity is not about what you cannot do, but instead, it’s about what you choose to do.

Purity is not some obscure goal that must be attained. It is an actual choice that we make every day. Sexual purity applies to both our actions and our attitudes. Sexual Purity is the active choice to refrain from sexual activity outside the bounds of marriage. It is having faith that we are worthy of more than short term pleasures, and that there is something better planned for our lives. We have to understand that sex was not created bu Satan, Playboy, the internet, or some pervert lurking in the shadows of a porn shop.

What God requires from us

However, God requires us to address sex within his intentions and requirements, not the world’s (Ephesians 5:3-4). God designed sex for the secred union of marriage between a man and a woman, and reserves it for that union. God made us sexual creatures so that He would be a deeply knowable creator. We were given the power to know the opposite sex so that we might have an insight of what it is to know Christ supremely.

Therefore, the misuse of our sexuality distorts the true relationship with God. Like all good gifts from God, sex can be misused. For instance: water is a gift from God, without which we cannot Survive. But floods and tidal waves are water out of control, and the effects are likewise, God designed sex to exist within certain boundaries. When exercised in line with God’s intended purpose, it is beautiful and constructive. When out of control, violating God’s intended purpose, it becomes ugly and destructive.

The boundaries of sex are the boundaries of marriage.

Sexual union is intended as an expression of lifelong commitment, a symbol of the spiritual union that exists only within the unconditional commitment of marriage. Apart from marriage, the lasting commitment is absent and the sexual act becomes a false expression, a lie. Sex does not become permissible through subjective feelings, but through the objective livelong commitment of marriage.

Your sexual purity is essential to your walk with God. it is not an option for an obedient Christian; instead, it’s a requirement. God’s will is centred on our character and moral purity much more than on our circumstances, such as job and schooling. For this is the will of God , even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication (1 Thessalonians 4:3).

Sexual purity doesn’t “Just Happen”.

We are human. Because of that we have desires, and we will want to give in to those desires. To be pure doesn’t mean that suddenly those desires will disappear. Instead we must have an active part in choosing to remain pure. It means we have to realise that there are more important things than fulfilling desires for a short-term gain.

It is important to note that no one is invulnerable to sexual immorality. Don’t deceive yourself that it can never happen to you because it can. 1 Corinthians 10:12 says that “Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall” if you think you’ll never fall sexually, you’ll make sure to take precautions to keep it from happening.

Few Precautions that One Can Take;
  • Knowing Jesus and His supremacy enlarges our souls so that the thrills of sex becomes as small as they really are. Nothing else is big enough to enlarge the soul as God intended, and make little lusts lose their power.
     Sexual purity begins in the mind, not the body.
  • It’s advisable to be careful of what you expose your mind to, abstain from lust by;

–  Not going to places that will trigger sexual act.

–  Watching pornography, programs and reading books that stimulates lust.

*Don’t give your mind junk food. Be sure you are getting spiritual nutrition.
  • Above all, guard your heart with all diligence,for out of it are the issues of life

(Proverbs 4:23,1 Corinthians 6:20, 2 Timothy 2:20-21).


Perhaps if you are out there and you feel you’ve gotten it all wrong with sexual purity or you’ve compromised God’s stipulated standards, not to worry, because you can still start a new life by accepting the one that He’s offering. Purity is From the Heart, once the heart has made a decision to follow through, every other thing will fall in place.

We are always here to help and here you out.